“Maybe This Is Just How It Is Now”… (And Why That’s Not True)

lisareav9
Jan 21
2 min read

Updated: Jan 22

This week, I spoke with five women — and every single one of them said the same thing.

“I feel stuck.”“I’m frustrated.”“I’m tired of starting over.”

Then came the sentence that stops so many women in their tracks:

“Maybe this is just how it is now.”

If that thought has ever crossed your mind, I want you to know something first — you are not weak for thinking it.

You’re exhausted.

When You’re Doing Everything Right — And Still Not Seeing Results

These weren’t women who weren’t trying.

They were: • Working out consistently • Eating well • Showing up week after week • Doing what they were told “should” work

And yet their bodies weren’t responding anymore.

I know this feeling personally.

In March of 2025, I went to my doctor feeling defeated. I explained that I had gained 7lbs in less than a year — something that had never happened to my body before.

My habits hadn’t changed.My training hadn’t changed.My lifestyle hadn’t changed.

Her response?

“Well, you’re almost 40. This is just part of getting older.”

That answer didn’t sit right with me.

Yes — age matters.Yes — our bodies change as we get older.

But unexplained weight gain is not normal. And it’s not something women should be told to simply accept.

Taking My Health Back Into My Own Hands

Instead of giving up, I got curious.

I researched aging female bodies.I tested different approaches.I went through trial and error.I learned what actually supports fat loss, energy, and consistency in women in their 30s and 40s.

And I realized something powerful:

It wasn’t my body that was failing me.It was the plan I was following.

That realization changed everything.